This is for the new brides of 2018, the one’s planning their big day in the future, or the curious ladies wanting to know just what goes on in a bride’s head!
A stress free wedding may seem impossible for a bride who wants a wedding to be perfectly in line with the one she imagines. If ive experienced anything in the past few weeks even, is that its pretty stressful and tough to bring that perfect wedding you want to life. This is coming from a bride who threw a tantrum when she couldnt get the decorated candles she wanted🙃. So i’ve come up with a few tips to help you girls to to make the whole wedding planning experience a pleasant one which in turn will help calm nerves on the big day!
1) Keep a checklist!
Bit obvious i know, but you would be surprised how effective and organised it is keeping a paper checklist on hand when you wedding shop. Phone memo’s just dont cut it😩. For me, writing everything you need to sort out and buy for different occasions, (especially for asian weddings when our pre wedding celebrations last a month) helps me to organise my day too so I don’t overspend or spend time looking at unnecessary items. Of course wedding shopping is meant to be fun and girly and cute and memorable, but it will be all these things when its a lot more organised and clear for you!
2) Don’t be a perfectionist
As much as it hurts to say this, as I want every tiny little detail to be gleaming and 100%, it takes all the fun out of it! Being a crazy perfectionist spoils the mood and atmosphere of it all so try to relax, allow little mistakes and spontaneity and fun!. Let go of your inner control freak and let other people for example your partner, family members take hold of the reins and run errands while you take a little break as it becomes a shared experience this way. Also, maybe condense your wedding preparations from the usual 12 months to maybe 5 or 6 months. For me, I have exactly 3 months. It may be a complete tiring whirlwind of 3 months, but as long as your organised and a little relaxed, I feel its a lot more effective than dragging out the preparations in a year.
3) Don’t lose sight
In the midst of all these preparations and keeping up with tradition, its so important to not lose sight of what it is that you are planning. Its no fun planning a wedding to such an extent where you ignore your partner and forget about the meaning of it all and the changes your wedding will bring. Keeping this all in balance will ensure you have a blessed and joyous experience!
4) Relax and allow mistakes!
As mentioned before, its important to relax and not to over think about tiny little details and maybe let things slide. Not major details like the colour and design of your dress or the theme, hell no, but more along the lines of noticing the cupcakes are green instead of light green (trust me, we do actually throw a fit over details like this!). Just laugh it off and let it slide. Don’t worry too much about social media either. For example, I used to overthink about whether I should post on the day, or after or how much should I share being an influencer/blogger. Now I will say, don’t let the smaller details of coloured cupcakes and pictures worry you and take you away from all the emotions and experiences
Exhibit A of me snorting, choking on food and giving a devilish smile on my engagement. Lord knows the faces I’ll make on my wedding😩😂
All of your efforts will come together beautifully, so let funny pictures of yourself snorting, stuffing yourself with food slide and relax, take it all in and live in the moment!
See you in my next post!
Love from Sahibah xx